An open letter to FTN's wife

FTN recently invited people to comment in and ask his wife questions. She has responded in his blog before on a couple of occasions and I have always enjoyed her contributions to his blog. It's sort of rare that we get a chance to "hear the other side" as it were. So I'm devoting an entire entry and dedicating it to her. She can take it, leave it, take some of it or whatever.

FTN's Wife, you need a name! Referring to you as FTN's Wife reminds me of Stiffler's Mom in the American Pie movie. I don't remember her getting a name either. Something cute, like your favorite flower. Preferably one with a short name.

1.) I also really enjoyed listening to your singing when FTN posted the link a while back. No, I really, really enjoyed it. You ever think about putting out something of your own out? Without the band, I mean. No offense to Boxers Over Trunks. I just think BOT is holding you back, talent-wise.

2.) FTN always writes with a lot of humor in his writing. Is he like that in real life, being Mr. Funny Man? If so, does it sometimes get annoying?

3.) I'm not remembering exactly how long you've been married, but it's been awhile. How has your husband changed over those years?

4.) Mrs. FTN, you show a lot of courage coming out and writing about many issues that you are clearly uncomfortable with. Is that kind of your way of maybe stretching yourself a bit and learning more about yourself? Have you ever thought about having your own blog?

5.) I took some of what you said to heart when you wrote about the scavenger hunt and I made one for my wife for Christmas that clearly had nothing to do with sex and it went over well. We actually had sex!LOL! Is the expectation of sex that much of a mood killer for you, or can having some advance notice help you get into the mood more?

6.) FTN has put in some effort with ditching the porn and the masturbation. As a man, I can tell you that these are both very difficult things to do. I'm guessing you were never okay with the porn. But how about the masturbation? Wouldn't it be easier on you if he just got himself off and gave you more peace? (okay, I'm playing devil's advocate there.) Have you ever been tempted to just tell him to leave you alone and jack off?

7.) One reason I like FTN's blog is because he will go ahead and put his Christian belief out there, which inspires other of us Christians to do likewise. At the same time, he's still pretty real and human. Assuming you both share a similar faith, when you pray for FTN, what sort of things do you pray for? What sort of things would you want FTN to pray for, for you?

8.) His relationship with you is THE major focus of his blog, although he often ventures into other topics. It's also the theme that keeps me coming back. Do you read him often? How do you feel about his having a blog like this on the internet?

9) FTN and I have both written about sexual anorexia, having experienced what it is we've experienced. Is the sexual anorexia explanation one you are buying into? Is there a better or more accurate description that might help us understand what is going on in your mind when it comes to sex?

10.) I get the impression that you and your husband have a fairly good relationship and even share some fun good times together when you are out in the world. Would you describe yourself as being laid back when among friends that you know socially? Or are you more introverted?

11.) Would you say you have issues with your body and being naked? What would you say is your best physical feature?

12.) What do you think your husband sees your best physical feature as?

I have many, many more questions but let's see how many of these make the cut.

D.